Remember your Ground Zero

I’m sitting here staring at my screen, wanting to write, but I have no real words….  All I know is my heart hurts and at the end of the day I will still make the same decision I made when I woke up.

It’s amazing how we can let the white noise around us, affect our emotions and stir our thoughts and create doubts in our minds.  It’s so easy to be swayed by the masses.

The last few years with my kids have taught me a lot about keeping focus and staying the course, in the midst of chaos.

When you have kids, it seems that all you do is worry about the kids.  So much so that you start anticipating issues and planning and hoping and dreaming and stressing and analyzing…it’s all crazy making.

But what I have learned in the midst of chaos is to remember your “Ground Zero”….  Your foundation, your goal in everything you choose.

Not long ago, there was drama going on around us.  Both my kids were affected, or so I thought and as a result, I became frenzied looking for the best decision for them.  Only when I actually ASKED them what their standpoint was, I found that they were fine where they were.  That I had actually created the drama in anticipation that they would be unhappy….only they weren’t.

It was a huge Karmic Bitch Slap in my face to stay focused.

If I had a DIME for every time I freaked out on behalf of my kids over the course of their lives, I’d be rich.  If I had a DIME for all the times they were actually unhappy about what I THOUGHT they wanted….I’d be dirt poor.

I want back all the time that I stressed needlessly, thinking it was in the best interest of my child, only to move forward in years and look back and realize, “I stressed for WHAT?”  No wonder I look so  old.  I’m fighting the cause for the greater good, only the greater good is at home, horizontal watching Netflix and chillin’…….

This year is a political year.  I wish to GOD they had huts in hawaii for non-political folk like myself, to hide in until all is said and done.

In my “Political Opinion”, politicians (ALL OF THEM) are Well intentioned and POORLY executed and there are so many of them, that none of them can get the job done properly because they are all too busy arguing with each other!  It’s like a huge pot of WTF going on….

Life is like politics.  You spend your life trying to make the right decision for all, when in the end,he who tries to please all, pleases none and loses his ass in the process….. (words from my mother).

Always remember your ground zero.  The reason you do things.

For me?  I’m here for my kids.  When I have their best interest at heart, the decision is pretty easy.  When I get caught up in the white noise around me, I start to lose focus and get stressed and cause stress and then I’m useless to everyone.

Everything starts with a foundation.  When the foundation is strong, everything will hold.

If you are losing sight of where you should be, then go back to the basics and go from there.

I don’t have time to be stressed.  Life is too short.

Stay grounded people.  It’s the little things in life that keep you going.  Not the big balls of white noise that will drag you down..  Take in the moments of the day with those you are closest to and enjoy the God given moments. In the end, that’s all we really have.