Ever have a day where you find out all sorts of information about your family from outside sources???
In the course of 15 minutes, I found out something about Avery, Aspen AND Chris from outside sources that I had NO IDEA of!!!
What kind of mom/wife am I that I am not privy to information??? Now granted; it wasn’t HUGE information, but still; when I say, “How’s your day at school?” I expect that if there were drama, I would hear about it! I’m ASKING, aren’t I??? But mere seconds after I ask the question and here “Nothing new”…..I get a call from a friend with her condolences from the days events for one kid.
…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………WHAT?????
And on the coattails of that, I have a friend who was privy to information about the goings on of the other kids school and decides to ask my other child, “Have you ever heard the kids talking about X???” To which my kid answers, “Oh ya!!! I’ve heard it a LOT! I just try to avoid it all!”
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..ummmm……….okay…….
To which the same friend tells me that my husband has information which I hadn’t even a clue……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
What kind of person am I that my family keeps stuff from me? Do I suck that bad that they don’t want to talk to me? Am I asking the wrong questions? No enough questions? Too many questions???
WHAT THE HECK?????
I’m feeling pretty down right now that I’m not in the “in” crowd in my own home.
My daughter simply said, “Sometimes you are scary mom!”
Well heck, at least have a small semblance of an answer. Maybe I’m too heavy-handed to be privy to information. Maybe it’s just not worth it for them to share it with me, who knows?
But the more I thought about it, I realized that though I would really like to be trusted enough to know, maybe it’s not for me to know.
The stuff going on at school wasn’t marked enough for my daughter to tell me, because she’s unaffected by it. And the drama with the other one was ‘apparently’ handled by the time school was over. As for the husband….boy….there are a lot of things I just don’t wanna know! And this was one of them. He was simply protecting me from the stress.
They don’t know every crevice of my life. I don’t think we are meant to know every last detail. What would leave us to be desired?
I found it shocking that everything came out in 15 minutes…… but none of it was life threatening, or even anything I could do anything about.
I think in the case of my kids, I just want to be able to counsel them on information that is unbecoming or challenging in their lives.
And as a result of todays influx of information, I DID talk to my kids. And I let them know that though I may be “scary”….as long as they don’t lie to me, I will always be on their side and do my best to protect them. But they have to be honest with me. They need only “fear” me if they are not truthful.
I don’t think it matters what questions I ask them. If they don’t want to tell me – they won’t! I didn’t tell my parents every last detail of my life.
It would seem that my family has a nice support system that extends beyond me. I don’t have to be their everything. As long as they know I’m here for them, then I’m good!
That’s all I got for now….
Happy Thursday
Mom of two grown ass girls and married to a short guy who is funny and cooks really well! I’m a photographer by trade, so you can say I’m a bit “peopley”. My favorite sessions are the one on ones where I just get to chat and find out about my clients. I’m blessed with what I get to do every day! Blessed by the support of my husband and kids, and blessed by the ongoing support and encouragement of my friends who are always lifting me up.