How do YOU treat others?

I kind of lost it today in a moments notice.  I snapped.  Just.lost.it……. Whether or not it was deserved, I’m not at liberty to say, but I think it came on the heels of many little things that led up to this moment.

I’ve been “of less patience” lately, with people treating others as though they are better than…. or even with just plain disregard.

They don’t seem to realize that actions speak volumes!

Are we so great that we don’t have to be concerned with “the next guy”?

This has been a slow build, because not too long ago, I had an interaction that left me feeling slapped in the face.  I was going to say punched in the stomach, but a slap in the face is just a little closer to home.  More of a personal insult.  A punch in the stomach can be a flail, while a slap is targeted…  You get my drift?

My time was completely disregarded by someone for whom I was scheduled to be there.  When I got there (after arranging someone to look after my children), the door was closed (after I was seen) and I was told to “come back in 20”.

Now, that may not seem like a big deal, but the message was SO loud and clear from this person, that I just left and didn’t come back.  I had done nothing to warrant being treated like I was less than shit, something to be discarded of or simply stepped over.  If I had done something, I’d understand, but up to this point there had been very little interaction at all between us…. and I was all but sent away…..

WHO DOES THAT??

I was raised by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).  AND…it was ENFORCED by a CATHOLIC GOD…. (if you were raised Catholic, y’all know what I’m talking about!)

Now, I’m not saying I’m perfect by any means…. But if I’m not talking to you, or I’m treating you in an unkind manner, then chances are you KNOW why!  I don’t just randomly treat people like crap!

Life is hard.  And we need to lift each other up.  I feel like much of my childhood was spent getting knocked down, and my adult life has been about trying to help people stay “UP”.  (as well as getting help at times myself!) We NEED each other!!

That said, I have a bad taste in my mouth for people who feel the need to constantly put others down, or explain to them why they are superior.  I don’t have time for that!

I think we all come to the table of life with something to offer and it will be uniquely yours as you offer it.

I had a conversation with a friend recently whom I refer to as “a Box person”.  Which simply means, that she sees things so clearly, every single thing in her life has a box.  Where as my life is more of a visual vomit place.  Everything is everywhere and I “squirrel” all over the place because I can’t keep a solid thought for too long.

And I think we get along so well, because we appreciate the unique qualities in each other!

I don’t know why tonight of all nights I snapped.  It’s been a while that I have been thinking about all this.

And I know that EGO has MUCH to do with a lot of it for some.  But for others, I think it’s plain ol’ insecurity.  Which is a bummer.  Because it’s those people who throw out the condescending comments who are most in need of building up.  Only their actions push people away.  And it’s really sad.

I recently replied to a friends post on FB and didn’t realize that my words completely offended my friend.  If you don’t know me then you don’t know how sarcastic I can be at times, and my sarcasm at this point didn’t land well.  I got a private message from her telling me she was unappreciative of my comments.

I INSTANTLY apologized, because never in a million years would I EVER say something to this person to hurt them.  They happen to be on my top 10 of most respected list.

At the end of the conversation, (all via messaging) I was smiling at how grateful I was that she took the time to talk to me!  She is much like myself in that she’s very up front and won’t hold back.  That’s one of the reasons I adore her!!

It could have gone so differently, if she just chose to unfriend me, or worse yet, never say anything to me at all.   I would never know that I hurt someone that I love so dearly!

Communication is huge when it comes to strengthening relationships.  Respect is even “Huger” (lol, is that a word? I don’t care, I’m going to use it).  When you condescend to people, you only show them you need to break someone else down.  And there is no respect in that.  And if you surround yourself by people who feel the need to do this, please run, not walk, to your nearest exit.  Life is too short people.