Goin’ OFF!!!!

So, the other night I had a conversation with my child about my….. well…. demeanor!

Apparently, when she does something that requires a “talkin’ to”…. deMEANOR I get!!!

I asked her what she meant and she said “You’re SCARY!”  I said, “Oh really?  How so?”  She said, “you just get mad and yell at people!”  I said, “Oh….I DO!???  Do I do it just to be MEAN???  Or am I JUST in what I’m “yelling” about???”

She said, “What do you mean?”

I said, “Do I yell at people because I’m in the mood and they don’t deserve it?  OR…. Do I “yell” (her term for talking tersely) because they did something that “earned” it???”

She said (with a lowered voice) ….”They earned it”.

To which I said….. “AAAAAHHHAAAAA!!!!!”  (not really, but I wanted to!)

See…. Kids don’t hear WORDS…they hear TONE!  And if they don’t like the TONE, then you are an evil mean person!!  They don’t care WHAT the content is!!!

And then I started thinking about how sensitive society has gotten.  I have been told by THREE people in one week that I am “scary!”  Two of which are adults!

Can someone PLEASE explain that to me????

I’ve never pulled a gun, or screamed at someone in blasphemy, or blatantly and belligerently defiled someone verbally in front of anyone else EVER!!!!   I have simply stated MY feelings on issues.

Now granted, I HAVE had witnesses at some of these events, but the bottom line is this…..  I do my best to live by a code.  If I talk about someone I am not saying ANYTHING I wouldn’t say to their face!   And IF I am saying it to their face, then chances are I have issues with something that is going on!

AND…. I EXPECT that my friends will let me know when they have issue with me!!!

I’m not perfect!  I NEVER profess to be, and I am happy to take criticism.  (okay not HAPPY…but I will!)  My BEST relationships are the ones I take issue with, work through and move on!  THAT is why my relationships run deep!  I don’t have time for the bullsh*t that some people care to hand out.

And the reason I am bringing this up is because I think if we have something to learn (and we ALL do), then we need to defer to those around us that we trust.  And that includes teachers.

But what I have found this year is that there is a large group of people who would rather realize that their world is perfect and that they need no correction from anyone.

Any I have to say in all honesty (and because I am UBER frustrated) that we ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL can learn from those around us!!!

Yet for some reason we find ourselves too sensitive to take correction or advice from anyone and we would rather criticize the information (or informant as it were) given us, then take a Gods honest look at ourselves and see if there is room to improve!!!

YES, I’m going off a bit.  But I have reason to!  I am SICK AND TIRED of people being soooooo sensitive that they can’t take an OUNCE of criticism!!!

WHEN did we become such a PAMPERED society that we can’t let teachers give constructive criticism??

Have you ever examined the evidence?

Is the deliverer saying that the recipient SUCKS????  OR…. are they saying they could IMPROVE if a few small issues were corrected??

I think too many times the EGO gets in the way and we are instantly offended by any message that isn’t glowing.  And I think if this is the case then you are impeding your own future by shutting down the possibilities that are in front of you!!!

I’m not exactly sure what set me off in all this.  I just know that too many people are WAY to sensitive and the bottom line is they are more consumed with their ego than their growth!

I have had a LOT of conversations this year about the EGO and its ability to hinder one’s ability to move forward.

I think it’s time that we pull back and simply hear the message given by the deliverer……rather than the message received by the egoistic recipient.

If we look at something with interest, it’s harder to judge what we are hearing.   Let your ego go for a while and take a leap of faith.

Back off those who are trying to guide you.  Because if they have something to show you that will help you grow and you shut them down, you are only hurting yourself.  And if you have been hurting, then isn’t it time for a change???

I’m not saying that everyone who talks to you is right.  There are always jerks who are bullies and need to be put in their place.   But take a look at the difference…. one is part of the problem. And one is part of the solution!

Please examine the evidence well before you shoot the messenger!

Peace Out!