So last night we had a date night.  The girls were to be dropped off at the dance studio and hubby and I had some alone time.  We decided to go to dinner and possibly a movie.  But as we couldn’t really agree on a movie, and I was feeling a bit tired, we settled on an “On Demand” movie at home.

Unfortunately, the last few days of non sleep had other plans for me.  As we got home, the fog settled in.  We cozied up on the couch and as he asked if he could start the movie, my eyes were already closing.  By 8pm I was dozing off.  Epic fail for date night.

My poor husband.

He sent me off to bed, and after I brushed my teeth and settled into jammies I was completely out by 9pm.  I doubt he enjoyed our date night.

Can you relate?

I told him this morning that we need a “date”.  I was joking with one of my girlfriends yesterday that I would love to go into a bar and have him “pick me up”.  I know that sounds weird, but when you have been together for 16 years, you tend to do the same things over and over again….you know….like fall asleep on date night.

I have actually thought of surprising him with nights out, but every time I get close to booking it, he tells me something is going on with either work or band, and it makes it impossible.

THIS is where I will have to adjust my thinking.  And as I’m pretty sure he reads my blogs daily, I can only allude to my thoughts, because I don’t want to full-out blow any surprise I may have in store (which right now is nothing,  because I just woke up).

When you think about “The perfect scenario” it is usually something you see out of a movie.   However, life isn’t a movie.  But when we plan something, we have an exact ‘scene’ in our minds of how things ‘should’ play out and when they go wrong, we tend to just quit altogether.

Case in point; my husbands 40th birthday.  I had ideas (and money set aside) to throw my husband a surprise (ish) 40th birthday.  I planned on a dinner with a group of friends.  But when he caught wind of it; he told me he just wants to play at a bar and have people show up.

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My plans were much grander and I was really disappointed, not to mention hurt that my grand idea just fell in the toilet.  So I had very little to do in planning his party, and to be honest, I was pretty upset that he completely squashed my dreams.

But the truth was, it was HIS 40th and if he is to have fun at his own party, shouldn’t it be like HE wants it???

So after a mental adjustment on my part, I backed off and devised a plan.  I was going to sing for him (as a surprise) at his party.  (Did you know I DON’T sing?…..well, other than in the shower and in the car with my kids.)

My BFF learned a song and I had a little coaching and on his 40th, I belted out a song (actually, I ambled it along).

He was surprised.  And though I am no Christina Aguilera, he was appreciative of my gesture, and I was proud that I was able to surprise him on some level.

So life isn’t perfect right?  And I fell asleep on date night.

There are worse things, but the truth is, this is life, and it doesn’t always turn out like it should.  But I don’t regret falling asleep, because I can feel my body totally needed it.  And I’m very appreciative to my husband for not being too terribly disappointed.  But now, I need to devise a “Real” date night….even if it’s planned for some early afternoon.

Gotta be flexible!

Happy Sunday!