Ever have a moment in your life that changed and defined who you were?  Literally changed your life as you knew it?  It would never be the same?

What did you do at that time?

Life is a mixed ball of goo.  You, and you alone get to choose how you treat these defining moments.

I once heard a brilliant term; we either blame OUTWARD….or INWARD.

Did you ever meet anyone who blamed everyone else for their lot in life?  But never took ownership for their own part in it all?

Conversely; did you ever meet someone who always seemed the victim in their own life story???

Seek and you shall find…….

Yes…I am speaking a bit in abstract.  But I believe that certain things happen in our lives for a reason.

We are here to learn.  PERIOD!!!

Maybe that is just my take on things, but I’m a believer in learning and growing.

I have had a few things happen in my life that were pretty harsh.  The first was my dad dying when I was 31 and pregnant.  I was sure he would live to see my baby.  But I was wrong.  I realized then, that I really knew nothing.  My reality – my world was forever changed.

But I do know that I was there when he died.  And when he passed, I seriously felt like he was with me.  I don’t know why.  My brothers seemed to be angry and alone.  But I always felt my dad with me.

How do you explain that?

I’m not sure there is an explaination.  But I know I can’t change how I feel.

I have had many defining moments in my life.  Some good; some bad.  But my goal has always been to learn from them.  And I have learned that just like movies, many times, there is foreshadowing; moments that give you a hint of what is to come.

I love to observe.  I wouldn’t call myself a stalker; but I do believe in quiet anticipation.  There are always signs, no matter how big or small.

I think many people miss these signs.  Oblivious, if you will.  In our lives of small gadgets and constant influx of information, most people have lost their gift of observance.  And I think it is a shame.

We have a lot to learn from each other.  If we all banded together in our wisdom and knowledge, I think we would all have a lot to gain.

But in today’s society, we simply don’t have the time.  Nor the inclination.

I guess you could say I’m feeling a bit melancholy right now.  And you would be right.  Sometimes when we learn something; our hearts hurt a bit.  Growth isn’t always easy.

But it is always worthwhile….if you take the time to learn the lesson from it.

Happy Friday