It’s always something…..

I read blog posts all the time about how “happy” people are.  And I do believe that they are happy….. or have happy moments they want to gush over, therefore post about their euphoria.  I’ve done it too.  But as I read these posts, I am aware of many who struggle in the process of their posts, with other areas of their life.  I highly doubt there is ever that 100%  happiness in every aspect of their life.

But I think it’s great that they take the time to post about their “happiness”.

What I don’t think that people get is that we are all human going through the same emotions.  Facebook should probably be called “Face- ade….”

Last night I was at the studio, and the cutest kid that works there complimented me on a picture I’d recently posted of myself.  I laughed and told him I was test shotting for a business picture and thought to myself “I don’t look half bad, so I’m posting it!”  To which he said, “You are HOT!” Which cracked me up, because as he said this, I was in the sweats I had been wearing the last two days (shhh) and my hair and makeup was probably at least a day old too…

But at that moment, when he saw the picture, he saw someone who wasn’t normally “there”.  “She” is my “Face-ade” personality.  And I rather like her.

In my normal day to day I struggle with something….anything.  It’s always one thing or another that is bugging me that I either have to deal with or struggle with.  Many times, it’s just getting a shower in, but that’s okay.  My Face-ade lets me look like I am over accomplished and overbooked person who somehow pulls it all together.

I often ask people what they see and I’m usually surprised.  Because like the rest of us, I’m sure that we just post things “in the moment” and move on.

The problem is, sometimes Facebook is a little telling.  Not long ago, I saw a friend (more of an acquaintance) suddenly start posting more and more, and her pictures were quite fun and hanging with friends a lot.  I knew instantly that something was up, but didn’t question it.  I later found out that my suspicions were correct…. she is going through a divorce.  AND….she recently posted how she is sooooo happy and has the best friends ever.  And I do believe her.  She looks really happy and she is a delightful person.  She just happens to have “real” stuff going on in the background that she doesn’t care to post.  And I commend her.

And then there is my sister, which probably prompted this post…  I want to “hate” on my her because is in Istanbul running a marathon.  But I know this is just one small part of her life that she gets to enjoy, and I love seeing her smile.  My jealousy at her being able to do this is contained…. because I know what’s behind her face-ade (facade if you haven’t figured it out by now.), and I’m quite proud of her.  But there are times I just get “UGHHHHH” and wanna hate cuz I can’t post anything as amazing on my own page…..

So, what’s behind MY facade???  Well, a dirty house, a lonely husband – cuz we can never connect, two dogs that need washed a haggard mommy, two kids whose wants and needs are “apparently never met” and a tray full of delicious cupcakes….. which were hand made and will be delivered promptly when they are expected.

So when looking at Facebook, remember it’s only skin deep.   Have compassion and take it all with a grain of salt.

Happy Sunday