I have an interesting lunch today with a friend.  We talked – in a nutshell – about how we all view the world so differently.

I’m currently at odds with another friend because I see something very differently than she sees it.  And in my world I don’t see how she can’t see my point of view.  And I’m sure in HER world, she is thinking the same.  It’s very frustrating.  I’d like to say we are both right; but I can’t…….  Because if I could see HER point of view on ANY level, then my heart might not hurt so much, but it does.

One question my girlfriend pondered today at lunch was an interesting one.  She said, “Why would ANYONE live a life by putting obstacles in their own path?  It makes no sense whatsoever!”

And I agree with her.  But on some level I felt like Horshack (from Welcome Back Kotter) when she asked the question; HAND FLYING IN THE AIR saying “Ooohh Oooh ooohh….pick ME!”  Because on some level I do this myself.

To live your very best life is HARD!  It takes time, dedication, planning, forethought, hindsight, wisdom….well, you get the idea!

Most people don’t want to work as hard or don’t really know which direction to go, because that in and of itself is quite the task and the first step.  And to be honest, the first step is always the hardest.  To make a roadmap thereafter….forgetaboutit………

The other thing she brought up is “Is that who you are?”

I love this question.  WHO AM I???

It’s a question for the ages.  What is your purpose?  What are you good at?  What is your calling?

Do you ever really stop to think about what you are here to do?  My gosh, the thought of that is so huge, it’s almost impossible to fathom.  Having an actual purpose in life?

Well, believe it or not, you are unconsciously doing bits and pieces over and over again.  For me, I’m Ella of Frell.  If people “Need” me, then I do what I must.  I have a SUPER hard time saying no and can’t even answer the front door, because if a salesman comes, I’m likely to buy whatever he’s selling.  And if I am forced to say no, I stew on it for a while.

But the other thing I think I’m here to do is stand on principle.  I’m not saying I’m perfect in this, but I do believe that certain things should happen in certain situations.  I believe that children should be able to sit at a dinner table and not have to have their electronic gadgets out.   They should be able to hold a conversation and actually look someone in the eye when they are talking.

I believe that you should treat others as you wish to be treated.  And when someone treats you in the opposite manner, they should be called out.

I believe if someone gives you something, whether you love it or not, you should be appreciative and say “Thank you”.  The fact that they gave you anything or even THOUGHT of you to give you something should be honor enough.

I believe if you give someone your time, they should respect you and show up on time.  (I can’t STAND when I give of myself only to sit and wait for someone who isn’t considerate enough to care!)

I have many other beliefs, but you get the point.  I don’t think I am unreasonable in ANY of my beliefs.

Most importantly, I believe that when someone wrongs you, you should say something and discuss it, instead of the alternative, which is either, ‘Cut and run’, or ‘ignore it like it didn’t happen’.  I’m not an ignorer.  If you have known me for ANY length of time, you know this.

My best friends are ones I have called to the carpet, or they have called me out.  We get angry, we discuss, we forgive, we move on…..  THAT is how you have a relationship.

But sometimes when people see the world differently and you are at an impasse, a decision has to be made.  I have made some hard decisions before, and some have been made on me.  It’s not always pleasant, but there are times when you just have to realize your relationship has had its season, be grateful, and move on.

But before you move on, make sure you know who you are and how you see the world…..  Life is too short for regrets….

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