SO……today is our 14 year wedding anniversary. A lot’s happened since I met Chris. We’ve buried a parent, gone through two miscarriages, two houses, and we are so far surviving two children.
We’ve gone through a recession, unemployment, re-employment , divorces of some of our friends as well as re-marriages…….and various other events.
I’d say that all in all, we are doing pretty good.
In the beginning marriage is about the fairytale. The “Wedding”. But most people don’t really prepare to live the “Happily ever after”.
I’ve heard people say I love you more than the day we got married…and there were some years I wondered, “HOW???”
But over the years of being together, you kind of start focusing on….well… LIFE!
And when things go on around you and you are able to reflect back on yourself, you think, ‘HEY….we’re doing okay!”
I’m not a liar, so to say our 14 years has been perfect wouldn’t be honest. We have had some rough years! We have questioned ourselves at times. But in the end, we come back to the same conclusion….”We’re doing okay!”
When I met Chris there were things about him that I loved; his sense of humor, the way he walked, his confidence (or cockiness) and his determination. He was loyal (I knew this when he followed his hairdresser from Orange to Yorba Linda), and his love of his family.
14 years later, what I like about Chris; His sense of humor, his confidence, his determination, his loyalness and his love for his family.
One thing I realized about my dad since being married to Chris is how my dad worked so hard for his family. He gave everything to us. I see that now, and I see that in Chris. It’s a most admirable quality.
You gotta give it to a guy surrounded by three (well 5 if you count the dogs) girls!!! When I first met him one of the endearing qualities was he wanted a little girl. I thought that was odd as most men wanted strapping young BOYS!!!
Now, two daughters later, I’m sure he realized he didn’t know what he was getting in to. But I dare say, he’s adjusting nicely! To take an unemotional sort of guy and throw in all the estrogen, and still get up in the morning…good God!!! But he does. And he picks them up from dance and he goes to their shows and he shows them (well Avery) how to cook, and they love the heck out of him.
I’m very proud of my husband of 14 years. We make a good team. I love him still, today for the things I loved about him almost 17 years ago when we met. That’s huge! I have even added some to the list.
It was a weird twist of fate how we met. But when I think back oh so many years ago, I realize, it wasn’t a weird twist…it was just fate.
I love you Chris. Thank you for sticking through the hard times and showing your family how much you love them every day! I look forward to many more years together in happiness or trial!!
And as you once said to me so many years ago….. Thank you for my future!
Love Cat
And to think I knew you both way back when 🙂 What an exceptional post, my dear. You are such a gifted writer. I could not be more thrilled for both of you – for your love, your commitment, and the brilliant life you have created, and continue to create. Sending you so much love! Here’s to many, many more years to come! XOXO