My heart is sad for a friend who is going through a rough time. I hate when my friends aren’t happy!!
Ever feel powerless to help someone? Knowing that if you could just be there with them, they would get through it? And with every day they would get stronger and eventually not need you anymore?
How often does that truly happen?
I have been watching my friend for months. It’s been really hard, because I went through this once before and I recognize what is going on. And though I’m not saying I have all the answers, I can see where strength and conviction is needed, yet there is non. Or not enough.
It’s so funny that we can fix others so easy, while our own lives fall apart piece by piece. And while my world is not falling apart, I have have areas of my life that are in dyer need for improvement. Yet I can’t see the forest for the trees to help myself.
I have found it’s easier to focus energy out than in. When I see someone else, there is clarity and when I look inward, it’s more of a murky, sludgy sort of view.
I get great joy in knowing I have wisdom for others. It makes it so easy to turn away from my own ‘stuff’ which will always be there when I return.
I got a message tonite from my friend. It will make it hard to sleep tonite, because I want to get in my car and head right over and make it all better. But I can’t. It’s not my job. And it’s not that easy.
Life is all about taking our lessons and applying them to ourselves. We need to learn to fix our own backyard and let others tend to theirs.
I heard a saying once that I loved; “When you spend so much time tending to someone else’s life…..WHO is tending to YOURS????”
It’s all a delicate balance. You can help, or get help, but you shouldn’t create dependency. In the end, you want the bird to fly. If you keep feeding it an clipping its wings, then you delay the purpose for which it was born. And eventually, if it stays clipped, it will never live for what it was created to do.
I’m constantly evaluating if I give too much or not enough. Sometimes my advice is too harsh. Many times I regret being so forward.
I am, afterall, my fathers daughter.
I hope things will go better in the upcoming weeks with my friend. My heart is truly hurting and it’s time she is allowed to move forward.
I wish I could see my own life as clearly as I see others. But if that were indeed the case; then I wouldn’t need my friends…….
Happy Friday
If you need an ear, I’m here. If I could help your friend I would do it in a heart beat.
No one likes to see someone hurt, or struggle.
If there’s nothing that can be done by us (people) we always have prayer, so I’ll say one for your friend.
Sent from my iPad Julie Ann Proctor http://www.julzrealestate.com Lic 01754588